A Few Things I Learned From Being a Psychologist (and from life)

  • Grief is not linear. A surge can take you by surprise; other days, you wake up lighter. Give space for both.
  • Saying mean things about yourself starts eroding how much you like you. Tell yourself: ‘please don’t talk about him/her/them like that.’
  • Variability is life. Having a bad day happens.
  • Learn to recognize quick sand. Before you get sucked in, don’t ignore the slippery feel under you.
  • Sometimes it’s important to give yourself a timeout. Send yourself to your room.
  • Routine and rituals reflect intention. What you do daily matters.
  • You do not have to wait for the perfect words, ideas, or inspiration to express yourself.
  • Boundaries are not just about other people – you can set them with yourself.
  • The Five Pillars that hold up your foundation are: nutrition, sleep, movement, meditation/prayer, and social support. Don’t ignore them.
  • No good decision came from a place of exhaustion.
  • Everything is therapy: Your physical environment, the company you keep, your music, art, activity, apparel, writing.
  • You cannot force, bribe, seduce, manipulate, or wish someone into loving you.
  • The ache to be accepted as you are is nearly universal.
  • Pretending to be uninjured does not heal wounds.
  • The tapestry and story of your life is incredibly nuanced; no one is ‘boring.’

Also see 13 WAYS TO PRACTICE NON-COMPASSION.

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