Her: I usually feel excluded at work; with colleagues, meetings, or in conversations. I’m invisible: I don’t matter.f Him: One of my best friends recently started dating somebody. I’m happy for her, but she has no time to chat or hang out. I feel like I don’t matter. Them: My partner has a new job.…
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“They just don’t talk to me”. That’s a familiar refrain. Parents often ask me for advice on how to help their kids speak to them more openly. These are some of my suggestions that I regularly use. I am happy to listen when you feel like talking. I believe you. What I admire about you…
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Many people are familiar with the classic psychotherapy strategies of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), which include the use of self-statements to combat negative or intrusive thoughts and cognitive distortions (tricks the brain plays on you, particularly when depressed or anxious). Personally and professionally, I like to integrate the ancient knowledge…
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In nearly all cultures, the process of socialization teaches us to share, take turns and give back to those who give to us: Reciprocity. We are likely to be shamed or ostracized if we don’t integrate the rules of reciprocity into our behavior. The rule of reciprocation is deeply ingrained in our psyche. This dance…
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Our myths about things that make us happy… and things that actually don’t Myth: Money will make you happy. Fact: It’s stressful when you’re worried about money. In order to be happy, you do need enough of it to cover your basic needs: things like food, shelter, safety, healthcare, and clothing. But research studies in…
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Getting even feels good and is worth any negative consequences; you have to get back at people. Other people should approve of me and like me. People should know what I want and I shouldn’t have to ask. I know everybody lies and you can’t trust them. I shouldn’t have to work at getting what…
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Even despite its universality, jealousy – like so many other emotions labeled as “negative” – has long had a bad rep. From being listed as one of the seven deadly sins to pop culture references such as “Green Eyed Monster,” jealousy has long been been viewed as “bad” and mythology and history have overflowed with…
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I teach my teen and kid clients about the purpose of Anxiety. The amygdala is a part of the brain that sets anxiety in motion. It’s actually an Ancient Warrior trying to protect you. Sometimes it becomes overly protective and gives you a turbo boost. This is fuel that is meant to keep you strong,…
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You read that correctly. While traditionally Western culture has minimized the importance of introversion, most people have a mix of extroverted and introverted tendencies. We have a lot to learn from introverts when it comes to mental health. 1. Reboot Don’t confuse being an introvert with being shy. An introvert acquires psychological energy or a…
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Not everyone will emerge, post COVID, with biceps and abs, the great American novel, a third language, the work pivot, or other fabulous accomplishment. Most of us strive for the greatest accomplishment of all, survival. It’s all too easy for us to look to our colleagues, friends, neighbors, and family and feel like we have…
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Combined with psychoeducational testing, it helps provide comprehensive information and recommendations to help children and teens six and up.
