This is not a good time for me to talk; I will call you later. I’ve changed my mind. I don’t think what you said was funny. It was hurtful. I can’t take that on right now. Thank you for the invitation but I’m not available.
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Mother, as a Verb.
Many people had a parent in childhood and adolescence who couldn’t meet mental, emotional, or physical needs. Perhaps the parent was struggling to do the best they could with the limitations of society and personal circumstances, but fell short. Perhaps they had mental health challenges, medical problems, trauma, financial hardship, personal struggles, and lack of…
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Why Self-Compassion is more Important than Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is a positive evaluation of self and self-worth. While there is some overlap, self-compassion doesn’t require that we evaluate ourselves positively or that we see ourselves as “above average”. Instead, the positive emotions of self-compassion still kick in when self-esteem falls down; when we don’t meet our expectations, suffer a loss, fail in some…
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The Emotions of Parenthood
I had a great conversation about The Emotions of Parenthood over on the Zebra Ears podcast. We talked about mental health, depression, Meghan Markle, and parenting – now available on iTunes and Spotify.
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The psychology of scotch bonnets
I’ve never fully understood people who tell me that they can’t “handle” spicy foods. Sure, like others, more than once I’ve bitten off more than I should have, and enjoyed delicious spiciness all the while with tears pouring down my face. So why do some people hate hot sauce, chili peppers, and other spicy foods…
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9 Myths About Mental Illness
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Let’s start off with some important myth-busting. Myth: Suffering from mental illness is uncommon. Mental illness is probably more common than you think. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, more than one in five U.S. adults lives with a mental illness. Chances are you know or are…
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What To Do When You Don’t Feel Valuable
It takes work to shift your thoughts, but what is most important that you start taking small actions that signify “I have value.” Take Small Actions What does that look like on a daily basis? Offering your opinion. Speaking up in a crowded room. Sitting in the front row. Sending your order back when it’s…
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Deep breathing and anxiety
When you feel a wave of anxiety, these are tools that you can use wherever you are. Your breath is your friend. Acknowledge to yourself that anxiety is occurring. Remember that you’ve dealt with this before, and you made it through. EXHALE a long breath. Yes, exhale. You’re letting it out first. Give yourself a…
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Why some people cannot apologize
To be able to admit that we’ve done something wrong requires a certain level of self-esteem or ego strength. People who are deeply insecure can find it challenging to say I’m sorry in part because a single mistake has the power to obliterate their fragile self-worth. The idea that they could make a mistake and…
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Depression and Parenting
I was recently the speaker on The Zebra School, a parenting podcast, on pregnancy and mental health. Depression, both during pregnancy, and postpartum, are very serious concerns that can affect the entire family. The podcast and blog interview will be officially LIVE May 1, 2021. You can listen to the full interview on iTunes, Spotify,…
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