How to be Mean… to Yourself:

25 Ways to be Mean… to Yourself

    1. Not asking for help: school/work/personal.
    2. Carrying a negative narrative or origin story about yourself.
    3. Not keeping your word to yourself.
    4. Not trying something new.
    5. Not allowing yourself to rest, or feeling guilty when you do.
    6. Procrastinating.
    7. Habitually saying self-derogatory things about yourself.
    8. Apologizing for everything.
    9. Setting unrealistic goals.
    10. Not setting goals.
    11. Faking having fun, pleasure, togetherness.
    12. Maintaining hurtful relationships.
    13. Not being appropriately assertive or reciprocal in personal relationships (Say: “Hey, you said that you would pay me back on this personal loan that you needed by such and such, can we work on getting that together? “)
    14. Giving up when you slip (well, I already ate the ice cream so I might as well eat everything else).
    15. Not keeping up with hygiene, health habits, or medical regimens.
    16. Doing something self-destructive when things are actually going well. 
    17. Not accepting compliments or appreciation.
    18. Avoiding daily responsibilities and chores that are relatively small until they become not so small.
    19. Paying for services that you don’t use (such as the dozens of subscriptions and services that are free for a month and then kick over to your credit card).
    20. Beating yourself up for past mistakes.
    21. Minimizing yourself because you get messages that you are “too much“.
    22. Raising your hand for a task because no one else is.
    23. Not protecting your emotional energy when you are going through a vulnerable time.
    24. Wasting time on things that bring no actual sustenance.
    25. Not speaking up when someone is being overtly rude.

And one more for good measure:  Allowing others to steal your creativity, product, or hard work.

Many of these things require practice and unlearning old habits. Also see How Can I Be More Self-Compassionate.

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