“They just don’t talk to me”.
That’s a familiar refrain. Parents often ask me for advice on how to help their kids speak to them more openly. These are some of my suggestions that I regularly use.
I am happy to listen when you feel like talking.
I believe you.
What I admire about you is…
What is the best way I can support you right now?
You have the right to be upset.
I would also feel scared if that happened to me.
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Thank you for trusting me.
I am proud of you.
I know it’s hard to talk about.
That’s a hard decision to make.
Making mistakes does not define who you are.